August 23, 2019

Set Your Dating GPS

You have two weeks for the ultimate road trip. You know you want to end up in Santa Barbara, visiting your old college friend and soaking in the Southern California groove. You are starting from San Francisco, with a rental car, a cooler full of iced tea, Fig Newtons, and grapes, and a GPS. You’ve […]

Developing Self-Trust

“If you can’t trust me, who can you trust?” When I was growing up, that’s what our sketchy neighbor Mr. Dillard used to say all the time. Even as a kid I remember thinking, “I bet he doesn’t even trust himself.” I know I didn’t. A friend of mine made a really bad decision recently. […]

Asking for What You Need – Why You Should and Why It’s Hard

We are born fully programmed to ask for, and receive, what we need.  A baby just minutes old will turn its head expectantly, assuming its biological need for sustenance will be met promptly.  If it isn’t, the baby cries, and mama puts the little wiggleworm to her breast.  Feedback loop complete.  Easy, right? Well, yes, […]

Avoid “Bad Date Syndrome:” Easy Steps for Turning Bad to Good

You’ve been chatting online for over a week with someone who seems pretty great so far. It’s time to meet face to face. You make a plan to meet for coffee at a trendy coffee spot, put on the sweater that perfectly complements your eyes, and head out full of hope and expectations. Maybe it’s […]

Reset Your Dating Mojo in 10 Easy Steps

Feeling frustrated with dating? Are you bored, and see dating more as “rigmarole” than tons of fun? If you are disenchanted with the process of dating—it’s time to recalibrate your mojo. Don’t be like Ava, a client of mine who got “date rage” whenever things went “too slow” for her. Remember dating is a p […]

Inspired Action for Deepening Your Relationship

True love was something Desmond and Sevilla never questioned. They had it. They had felt grateful and blessed for seven years since the day they met at a bicycle auction in upstate New York. They’d married at the top of a ski mountain the following winter where their wedding party skied or snowboarded down to […]

Dating, Sex, and How to Say No

When it comes to reasons people give for why they had sex early in a relationship even though they did not want to, I’ve heard things like the following way too many times: > “I didn’t want him to stop liking me.”> “I figured she’d think something was wrong with me.”> “I thought we were […]

Question: Can you advise me how to proceed on a third date with a girl that makes me butterfly nervous?

Dear Betty, I am at the very beginning of a new relationship and need advice. Here are the details: I’m 48 and she is 47. We both have kids – I have a son in college and she has two teenage sons. We used to work together and have known each other for five years. […]

Why Hire a Dating Coach?

I sat on a panel of dating experts recently, and someone in the audience asked: “Why should I hire a dating coach? I’ve got tons of friends that help me out.” I explained that your friends, although well intentioned, are attached to your outcome. They know you well. What they tell you is often either […]

Step By Step: Effective Online Communications in the Dating World

You’re making progress… ♥  Dating profile. Check. ♥  Unique user name. Check. ♥  “Had me at hello” headline. Check. ♥  Fabulous (and honest) photos. Check. ♥  Clear (and honest) “what you’re looking for in a partner.” Check. ♥  Well-written (and proofread) “about me.” Check. Okay, so all that hard work is done. Congrats! What’s next? […]